{"id":2687,"date":"2022-11-19T22:04:31","date_gmt":"2022-11-19T20:04:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/psyxologoi.gr\/archives\/2687"},"modified":"2025-04-29T20:26:18","modified_gmt":"2025-04-29T17:26:18","slug":"entrapment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psyxologoi.gr\/en\/entrapment\/","title":{"rendered":"Entrapment"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8220;I am trapped in this situation, and I don\u2019t know what to do&#8230;&#8221; How many times have you heard this phrase from a friend or relative? Or, to be more honest, how many times have you personally felt the emotional state described by this phrase?<br\/>The primary underlying emotion is fear, but it is a fear that, no matter how &#8220;brave&#8221; we are, something prevents us from facing it\u2026 The reason for this is well hidden in habits, roles, and even self-deception!<br\/>For example, when we fear heights, it is clear what we need to confront, and with behavioral techniques, we can either overcome or reduce this fear. But when what we fear is the change that will occur in us and those around us when a distressing situation ceases to exist, things become much more &#8220;uncomfortable&#8221; and &#8220;difficult.&#8221;   <\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Things get quite \u201cuncomfortable\u201d and \u201cdifficult.\u201d Perhaps an example might help clarify this state. We often hear, \u201cI\u2019m trapped in this relationship\u2026 I don\u2019t want to be with them anymore, but I can\u2019t leave.\u201d Entrapment, in its literal sense, describes a state where a person is either physically tied or surrounded by enormous walls, making any form of escape impossible. If neither of those is literally the case, perhaps the truth behind that phrase is: \u201cI\u2019m afraid to end this relationship because, although I\u2019m unhappy, at least I have someone,\u201d or even \u201cI\u2019m afraid to take responsibility for ending this relationship because maybe this is what I deserve\u2026 and if I break up\u2026 then what? At least now I know.\u201d<br\/>We truly become trapped in an emotional whirlwind when, deep down, we believe we\u2019re getting what we deserve. The reality is, our survival instinct urges us to leave situations that make us \u201csick\u201d or weigh us down. The only reason our body would remain in a space that\u2019s 40\u00b0C, when we could open the door for fresh air, is if we believe that 40\u00b0C is normal\u2014because that\u2019s the temperature we grew up in. In other words, a teenager (or even an adult!) shouting that they are trapped by their parents who decide how they live because they provide housing and money, is really saying: \u201cI need to grow up and take my life into my own hands, and that scares me (I\u2019m not ready) to face\u2026 how can I be the one to make decisions for myself and bear the responsibility?\u201d<br\/>And since everyone in the above scenarios has likely tried to talk things out by saying things like, \u201cI\u2019ve said it a thousand times, and no one listens,\u201d or \u201cI\u2019ve said what bothers me, and nothing changes,\u201d let me remind you of this: the air won\u2019t cool down by shouting \u201cIt\u2019s hot!\u201d\u2014it will cool down when we open the door\u2026 when we act\u2026 when we move. Ultimately, maybe entrapment is a trick of the soul, a brake of the mind\u2026 or more precisely, a resistance to growing up and taking responsibility.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;I am trapped in this situation, and I don\u2019t know what to do&#8230;&#8221; How many times have you heard this&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2478,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"_kad_post_classname":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[64],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2687","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-anna-koumpouli"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/psyxologoi.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2687","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/psyxologoi.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/psyxologoi.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psyxologoi.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psyxologoi.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2687"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/psyxologoi.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2687\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2761,"href":"https:\/\/psyxologoi.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2687\/revisions\/2761"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psyxologoi.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2478"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/psyxologoi.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2687"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psyxologoi.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2687"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psyxologoi.gr\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2687"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}